I recently read this on Facebook:
It spoke to me for two reasons: 1) I had just recently cut my hair and could immediately see how much healthier my hair was looking, especially after all the heat damage and breakage it had been through and 2) I was particularly struggling with the cutting of dead ends in various other aspects of my life.
Firstly, I had been stuck in a job that was really not going anywhere and I was just sticking it out until things eventually improved, which never happened. Secondly, I was (or rather, still am) holding onto a relationship where we’re really not sure where it’s headed, especially since we’ve been trying for years on end and we kinda always just end up at the same place every time.
Although my life is anything but sorted and is still a work in progress in all aspects, here are my 5 tips for getting rid of dead ends in your life:
1. If you’re not happy, do something about it! You are wasting seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months and years of your life being unhappy and gaining absolutely nothing from it. I was no longer happy in Johannesburg so I moved to Cape Town and I’m in a much better space. I wasn’t unhappy at my job and have since started a new one, where I feel at happy and content so far. Your change doesn’t need to be this drastic but the important thing is that you make sure you don’t stay stuck.
2. If you’re going to “stick it out”, do it within reason. You can’t expect to be CEO after the first six months at your new job – that’s unreasonable and ridiculous. If growth is possible and visible, even if it’ll take a while, then wait it out because sometimes the growth we’re looking for takes time and we’re just too impatient. But, if you’re waiting for a fuck boy to get his act together, move on. He’s unlikely to change and you could be missing out on Mr. Right while waiting on Mr. Wrong.
3. Block them if they’re toxic and hurting your mental and spiritual health. There’s no reason to go cray-cray because of people who are not going cray-cray over you.
4. Once you’ve let go of your dead end, replace it with something healthier. Yes, sometimes your dead end is something you can’t exactly just get rid of, like your job, but then fill the rest of your time working towards what you really want to do; with what really makes you happy. Be productive! Keep busy.
5. Other times, getting rid of your dead ends just means getting a good, sexy, sassy hair cut to begin the healing process. Yes, a haircut! Did you know that a haircut, often after a breakup, marks change and an attempt at cutting ends with your past – and that might be just what you need to begin the process? Like Coco Chanel said, “A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.” Be that woman!
What dead ends have you been battling with? Have you managed to get rid of them? Why or why not? Share, share, share!